Hola,
My husband and I have been together for 17 years. We discovered around year 5 that sometimes we need our space. I swear we were arguing like cats and dogs everyday.

Let’s just face it I am loud, opinionated, over the top, and after a while that ish can be annoying to anyone. Hell, I annoy myself sometimes! My husband is very reserved, quiet, pensive, and sometimes that ish gets on my nerves. We had a frank discussion with each other and I suggested that we pick a day of the week that we could act like we were two single people sharing a home. Now, get your head out of the gutter I am not talking about having affairs! I just meant one day of the week is all about you and no one else. We chose Sunday.

“ On Sunday, we don’t speak to each other for the entire day. We wake and go our separate ways.”

It’s f’ng glorious! He can play his stupid Playstation Call of Duty or whatever shoot ‘em up game is currently popular all day and I can watch all of my reality tv tomfoolery in bed without interruption. We eat breakfast, lunch and dinner separately and if we really need a break we may choose to sleep in separate rooms that evening. Sounds too harsh? Don’t knock it until you try it. My husband and I travel a lot for work and even though we may be separate because of work during the week we still honor our Sunday separate day. We both look forward to it. Just because you are married doesn’t mean that you don’t need time to yourself. I think that separate day is one of the reasons that we have been together for so long and why we continue to be so happy. We are honest enough with each other to say one day a week you be you and I’ll be me. I think that it’s very grown up of us.

Smooches,

bp